Comments on: Innocent Or Not, I’m Guilty http://www.thesuburbanjungle.com/guilty I would look more like this chick --> if she were folding laundry Fri, 03 Feb 2012 21:31:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Keyuri Joshi (on the ball parent coach) http://www.thesuburbanjungle.com/guilty/comment-page-1#comment-21728 Keyuri Joshi (on the ball parent coach) Thu, 20 Jan 2011 16:08:42 +0000 http://www.suburbanjungle.net/?p=181#comment-21728 Wonderful post. My guilt? Not making a hot breakfast for my family every single morning. But really... cold cereal never killed anyone that I know of! On the more serious side... I always teach my mom clients to find and keep their oxygen mask on. It's just like they teach us on the airplane. "Put your own mask on before helping others". Why? We have to be breathing in order to be of service to anyone. Also... our kids are more likely to put their own mask on when we role model it. Wonderful post. My guilt? Not making a hot breakfast for my family every single morning. But really… cold cereal never killed anyone that I know of! On the more serious side… I always teach my mom clients to find and keep their oxygen mask on. It’s just like they teach us on the airplane. “Put your own mask on before helping others”. Why? We have to be breathing in order to be of service to anyone. Also… our kids are more likely to put their own mask on when we role model it.

]]> By: Jenny from the blog http://www.thesuburbanjungle.com/guilty/comment-page-1#comment-21700 Jenny from the blog Thu, 20 Jan 2011 02:35:17 +0000 http://www.suburbanjungle.net/?p=181#comment-21700 Bill, Wilern is a long time reader and probably knows all too well how little credit I give my hubs. Too too true, you men really don't get the benefit of the doubt, but hey it's not you it's me. I know, I've said that before, but this time I really mean it! Thanks for reading, come back and listen to my sexist anytime. YOU GO STAY AT HOME DADS OF AMERICA! Bill, Wilern is a long time reader and probably knows all too well how little credit I give my hubs. Too too true, you men really don’t get the benefit of the doubt, but hey it’s not you it’s me. I know, I’ve said that before, but this time I really mean it! Thanks for reading, come back and listen to my sexist anytime. YOU GO STAY AT HOME DADS OF AMERICA!

]]> By: Bill at FamZoo http://www.thesuburbanjungle.com/guilty/comment-page-1#comment-21696 Bill at FamZoo Thu, 20 Jan 2011 01:20:54 +0000 http://www.suburbanjungle.net/?p=181#comment-21696 "Do you think a guys I Q drops to 65 when it comes to Child Caring." Classic comment Wilern! It sure gave me a knowing chuckle as a work-at-home father of 5. With 2 now in college and 2 in high school, I still get lectured on the patently obvious when left in charge of our youngest. Cracks me up. I try not to take it personally. Thank goodness it was my wife who misplaced one of the youngsters in Nordstrom many moons ago, or I probably wouldn't be alive to write this comment ;-) “Do you think a guys I Q drops to 65 when it comes to Child Caring.”

Classic comment Wilern! It sure gave me a knowing chuckle as a work-at-home father of 5. With 2 now in college and 2 in high school, I still get lectured on the patently obvious when left in charge of our youngest. Cracks me up. I try not to take it personally. Thank goodness it was my wife who misplaced one of the youngsters in Nordstrom many moons ago, or I probably wouldn’t be alive to write this comment ;-)

]]> By: stefanie http://www.thesuburbanjungle.com/guilty/comment-page-1#comment-21694 stefanie Wed, 19 Jan 2011 22:13:42 +0000 http://www.suburbanjungle.net/?p=181#comment-21694 A fabulous lesson for all mothers to keep in mind. I always use the oxygen mask theory. You have to put yours on before theirs. Love it! A fabulous lesson for all mothers to keep in mind. I always use the oxygen mask theory. You have to put yours on before theirs. Love it!

]]> By: Jenny from the blog http://www.thesuburbanjungle.com/guilty/comment-page-1#comment-21705 Jenny from the blog Wed, 19 Jan 2011 19:49:40 +0000 http://www.suburbanjungle.net/?p=181#comment-21705 KGB- so amazingly put!!! Frank, thank you for the kind words! KGB- so amazingly put!!! Frank, thank you for the kind words!

]]> By: frank mundo http://www.thesuburbanjungle.com/guilty/comment-page-1#comment-21687 frank mundo Wed, 19 Jan 2011 18:31:03 +0000 http://www.suburbanjungle.net/?p=181#comment-21687 Jenny, Your posts are always so authentic and real. I really enjoy your work. Keep it up. Jenny,
Your posts are always so authentic and real. I really enjoy your work. Keep it up.

]]> By: kgb http://www.thesuburbanjungle.com/guilty/comment-page-1#comment-21685 kgb Wed, 19 Jan 2011 18:02:22 +0000 http://www.suburbanjungle.net/?p=181#comment-21685 When my kids were little I totally had that guilty feeling almost always when doing something away from them. (either doing mundane annoying things like grocery shopping or doing the once in a blue moon thing for myself) I didn't have the I don't trust my husband or the baby sitter thing, I just DID NOT WANT TO MISS A THING THEY DID. Ever. Also I was (and still am) quite convinced no one could meet their needs as well as I could and it was definitely an "I WANT TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR CREATING and witnessing all their greatness, ups and downs and their icky sides too". I developed my passion for photography after having the kids because part of what I did was snap away on most days to document pretty darn much everything they did. It is now my little career after 19 years of taking pictures. I sacrificed a lot be with my two, now 19 and 17 year old, bundles of joy. One is at college and the other is all set for his college exit too. When they are gone they are gone. They are really gone. My 'creations' are out conquering the world and I prepared them to do so with love and gusto. I wouldn't trade one minute of the guilt feelings I experienced when I was away from them. I am glad I heard the guilty refrain and ran back home fast to be wit them. I am sure I missed many 'liberated mom' opportunities by being with them 24/7-ish for 18 years. I don't care. But now I have NO guilt now! I have tons of coulda' woulda' shoulda's about many things in my life, but I have none about what I WISH I would have done for them or with them. I don't regret any of the time I spent with them. I cherish every minute I did. AND much of it is documented in photos. None of which I have actually put in albums (before digital) or looked at by the way (piled high in Rubbermaid tubs in the attic) but I will put them in albums when my son is gone in September. Thank God my husband was fully employed and I was able to do what I did. It was a gift. Don't ignore the kids and their desire to be with you. If you change the way you think about that, them needing you so much and remember this will not last forever (it only feels like it at the time) Enjoy that they want you with them, enjoy helping them, playing with them. Ignore the guilt that so called 'liberated Moms' will try to inflict on you to 'do your own thing'. I have the next 40-50 years to do that now. My goal? To live long enough so they can take care of me : ) When my kids were little I totally had that guilty feeling almost always when doing something away from them. (either doing mundane annoying things like grocery shopping or doing the once in a blue moon thing for myself) I didn’t have the I don’t trust my husband or the baby sitter thing, I just DID NOT WANT TO MISS A THING THEY DID. Ever.
Also I was (and still am) quite convinced no one could meet their needs as well as I could and it was definitely an “I WANT TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR CREATING and witnessing all their greatness, ups and downs and their icky sides too”.
I developed my passion for photography after having the kids because part of what I did was snap away on most days to document pretty darn much everything they did. It is now my little career after 19 years of taking pictures.
I sacrificed a lot be with my two, now 19 and 17 year old, bundles of joy. One is at college and the other is all set for his college exit too. When they are gone they are gone. They are really gone. My ‘creations’ are out conquering the world and I prepared them to do so with love and gusto.
I wouldn’t trade one minute of the guilt feelings I experienced when I was away from them. I am glad I heard the guilty refrain and ran back home fast to be wit them. I am sure I missed many ‘liberated mom’ opportunities by being with them 24/7-ish for 18 years.
I don’t care. But now I have NO guilt now! I have tons of coulda’ woulda’ shoulda’s about many things in my life, but I have none about what I WISH I would have done for them or with them.
I don’t regret any of the time I spent with them. I cherish every minute I did. AND much of it is documented in photos. None of which I have actually put in albums (before digital) or looked at by the way (piled high in Rubbermaid tubs in the attic) but I will put them in albums when my son is gone in September.
Thank God my husband was fully employed and I was able to do what I did. It was a gift.
Don’t ignore the kids and their desire to be with you. If you change the way you think about that, them needing you so much and remember this will not last forever (it only feels like it at the time) Enjoy that they want you with them, enjoy helping them, playing with them.
Ignore the guilt that so called ‘liberated Moms’ will try to inflict on you to ‘do your own thing’.
I have the next 40-50 years to do that now.

My goal? To live long enough so they can take care of me : )

]]> By: Jenny from the blog http://www.thesuburbanjungle.com/guilty/comment-page-1#comment-21703 Jenny from the blog Wed, 19 Jan 2011 18:00:30 +0000 http://www.suburbanjungle.net/?p=181#comment-21703 I know, I'm not the only one. I'll look Mia up. Thanks! Oh do I need raising, Christine. I get the morale of the egg story and I also get the irony of the guilt we feel, which is why I love highlighting it in stories like this. I know, I’m not the only one. I’ll look Mia up. Thanks! Oh do I need raising, Christine. I get the morale of the egg story and I also get the irony of the guilt we feel, which is why I love highlighting it in stories like this.

]]> By: Christine Martinello http://www.thesuburbanjungle.com/guilty/comment-page-1#comment-21681 Christine Martinello Wed, 19 Jan 2011 17:31:25 +0000 http://www.suburbanjungle.net/?p=181#comment-21681 Ok Moms - it's time to pick ourselves up and get over the guilt already. As a momager (mom & manager) of 3 teens and the author of 'The Momager Guide; empowering moms to leave a loving legacy' I've talked with thousands of moms across the globe about this. You know what works to relieve the guilt? (Drum roll please here. . .) KNOW you are valuable and worthy! That's right - you are WORTHY to invest time and energy in. As a mom you are continually raising your kids and raising yourself too. "Be true to you and have some fun too." Ok Moms – it’s time to pick ourselves up and get over the guilt already. As a momager (mom & manager) of 3 teens and the author of ‘The Momager Guide; empowering moms to leave a loving legacy’ I’ve talked with thousands of moms across the globe about this.

You know what works to relieve the guilt? (Drum roll please here. . .) KNOW you are valuable and worthy! That’s right – you are WORTHY to invest time and energy in. As a mom you are continually raising your kids and raising yourself too.

“Be true to you and have some fun too.”

]]> By: Cheryl Wilms http://www.thesuburbanjungle.com/guilty/comment-page-1#comment-21679 Cheryl Wilms Wed, 19 Jan 2011 16:52:00 +0000 http://www.suburbanjungle.net/?p=181#comment-21679 Oh do I know the mommy guilt.....that's if I ever get a chance to leave them with someone which is totally rare, but I do spend a lot of time on the computer which makes me feel quite guilty. Leanne (my biz partner) and I ran into the most incredible gal out there, Mia Redrick and she focuses on moms making time for themselves. She is the author of Time for Mom-Me. She's so incredible that Leanne and I decided to interview her. Check out the interview: http://www.wahm-solution.com/mia-redrick.html Great post:) Oh do I know the mommy guilt…..that’s if I ever get a chance to leave them with someone which is totally rare, but I do spend a lot of time on the computer which makes me feel quite guilty. Leanne (my biz partner) and I ran into the most incredible gal out there, Mia Redrick and she focuses on moms making time for themselves. She is the author of Time for Mom-Me. She’s so incredible that Leanne and I decided to interview her. Check out the interview: http://www.wahm-solution.com/mia-redrick.html

Great post:)

]]> By: Jenny from the blog http://www.thesuburbanjungle.com/guilty/comment-page-1#comment-21702 Jenny from the blog Fri, 14 Jan 2011 14:39:12 +0000 http://www.suburbanjungle.net/?p=181#comment-21702 Seriously, I have guilt over the time not spent with the kids also. We really do ourselves in huh? But they're so worth it, Luc. Seriously, I have guilt over the time not spent with the kids also. We really do ourselves in huh? But they’re so worth it, Luc.

]]> By: Luc Brooks http://www.thesuburbanjungle.com/guilty/comment-page-1#comment-21492 Luc Brooks Fri, 14 Jan 2011 13:09:14 +0000 http://www.suburbanjungle.net/?p=181#comment-21492 When my children were younger I had no problem leaving them with my husband. Now I want to spend more time with the family. I know that my children will want to spend more time with their friends as they get older. And I want to enjoy our time together. And my kids are in school all day and I get to do whatever I want at that time of the day. When my children were younger I had no problem leaving them with my husband. Now I want to spend more time with the family. I know that my children will want to spend more time with their friends as they get older. And I want to enjoy our time together. And my kids are in school all day and I get to do whatever I want at that time of the day.

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